How to silence your inner mean girl (My Beyoncé moment realized)

 
 

One week ago, I was sitting in a makeup chair getting ready for a moment I had dreamt about all the days of my life.

The Soul Fueled Summit happened and it was more magnificent than I could have imagined.

A packed house, a vibe higher than the sky, a perfectly set stage and a room full of soul fueled brothers and sisters dancing like they haven't danced in a really long time.

We left the event flying high and feeling more alive than ever. 

The feedback has been incredible and I can hardly believe I have to wait a whole year to do it again!

But a funny thing happened as this magical day came to a close.

After allowing myself to bask in the brilliance post-summit, I spent the next 3 days in a creative cocoon filming here at the house with my bestie Rachel Camfield and my new favorite person + videographer Josh Guiles. 

In between shooting, I found myself in a silent, ego-laced loop inside my head.

Over and over things like, "What could you have done better?"OR "Wow, are your hips really that wide?"OR "Man, those music cues should've been tighter...less tangents, more teaching," played over and over in my brain.

My inner critic was beating the drum hard. 

But instead of deep diving, down the rabbit hole I did something totally new and different. 

I witnessed myself reaching for judgment and criticism as a way to justify my fear.

I allowed myself to rest and recharge.

I gave myself permission to not write to you until I felt ready.

I celebrated this HUGE moment in my life and career and the impact my leaping had on the lives of those who were there.

I thanked my current and former selves for having this dream and going for it.

My sweet, inner mean girl has a purpose.

She is here to protect me and keep me from looking like a total dork; but, the tricky part is that she knows my achilles heel and she doesn't hesitate to go right for the jugular. 

We have lots of practice together.

But when it comes to the stuff that's really sacred...it's better when she stays in the green room. 

We've made an agreement that she can leave the stage to her older, wiser sister because we've got big work to do.

Contraction is a natural reaction to expansion...and the more comfortable we become with this process, the easier it is to nail those really big goals.

Now it's your turn:

How has your inner mean girl (or guy) kept you from doing the things you really want to do?

How has identifying her voice of fear and separating it from your inner voice of reason been wildly life-giving?

What happens when you became a witness to your inner critic rather than allowing it to be the guiding force in your day-to-day?

Walking out on to that stage was one of the most incredible moments of my life.

Don't let your inner critic keep you from your dreams.

Thank her for loving you enough to care...and let her know you'll take it from here.


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Amber Lilyestrom

Amber Lilyestrom is a soul-based branding & business coach, writer and motivational speaker. Amber currently coaches new and established entrepreneurs in creating strategies to transform their brands and businesses. She also works with individuals who want to leave their current careers and launch their big idea. From idea conception to the construction of the business and all of its digital assets, Amber assists new entrepreneurs in making “the big leap.”