Are you subconsciously blocking your dreams? (And how to tell if you are...)

Whew, Friend...

Can you feel that?

We're IN IT right now with this winter season over here.

We got 10" yesterday here in New Hampshire and while it's beautiful...it's hard to remember what our lush green grass actually looks like under there.

The idea that we'll be in bathing suits and splashing around in the lake in a few short months feels near impossible to imagine on days like today.

And isn't that exactly what pursuing your really big goals feels like too?

On days like today, when the proverbial finish line seems so out of reach, it's easy to get lost in the weeds.

It's easy to fixate on how unclear the pathway is.

And, sometimes, it's easier to throw in the towel on the stuff that hasn't come to fruition yet. 

But it's also an excellent opportunity to do a check-in on those big (we're talking lifetime-level-big) goals you've set for yourself.

I was journaling this morning and a question popped up that stopped me in my tracks and cracked me wide open in the most unexpected ways and I could not wait to share it with you...

Are you ready for this?

If I don't have what I desire, why don't I want it?

Say whaaaaat?!

Let me try it another way...

If I don't have the thing I have been dreaming about, what have I told myself about why I can't have it?

Woah, let's wade in a little deeper:

If I don't have what I desire most of all in my life, what do I believe about why I am not WORTHY of receiving it?

Oooofff...

This whole thing took a minute to process and ponder...and when I let myself unfurl on the page, here's what came next:

I don't want it because I am...

  • Overwhelmed by who I believe I have to become in order to have it.
  • Terrified of slowing down. I don't know how to pause.
  • Afraid to take off the armor that has been keeping me safe from stepping in to who I really am.

Answering those questions felt really scary.

Sharing them with you feels even more terrifying.

Because if I tell you who I really am and what matters most to me...there's a chance you might not like me.

There's a chance you might judge me.

There's a chance you might write me off. 

There's a chance that all of the horrible things I've spent so much time believing about myself, might be validated as true.

Ouch. 

It stings...but the awareness is the gift, isn't it? 

Transparency is the ultimate freedom.  

And when I allow myself to unfurl even more deeply in to these questions, I realize that it's not you who's judging me...it's me.

I'm the one who does the poking and the prodding and the criticizing and the minimizing. 

And I'm ready to call a truce, once and for all.

Because we can't do this thing called life without picking ourselves for our own team.

We can't pour in to someone else's cup if ours is empty.

So with you as my witness, dear friend...I vow to you in this moment to... 

  • take the veil off the magic that lives inside of me.
  • start playing bigger on every single level.
  • stop apologizing for my success.
  • quit waiting for a written invitation to live out my dreams.
  • tell the world the TRUTH...

And that truth is that in less than 3 years, I have served thousands of people all over the world and helped them not only transform their lives, but change the course of history for their families.

I have done the same for my own family and I am just getting started.

I have created a multiple six-figure coaching business and a thriving direct sales team while working from home full-time and raising our little girl.

I have done all of this and so much more and I want to show you how. 

I want to help you peel back the layers on what is holding you back so you can breakthrough and change the course of history for your family.

I want to walk with you hand-in-hand to discover the pathway that leads to your definition of success and fulfillment. 

I want to share with you what it really means to be a Soul Fueled CEO™. 

Are you ready?

Stay tuned for more information Wednesday on what's coming next...

 

Now it's your turn:

What do you really want, Friend? And how has the landscape of your life lead you to it?

Your answers to these questions are your golden ticket to more of the good stuff.

Go ahead, grab your journal...

  • What have I been hiding? 
  • If I don't have what I desire, why don't I want it?
  • If I don't have the thing I have been dreaming about, what have I told myself about why I can't have it?
  • If I don't have what I desire most of all in my life, what have I told myself about why I am not WORTHY of receiving it?
  • What vows are you ready to make to yourself and to your sacred truth?

Head on over to my free Facebook group and share your answers with the tribe.

I look forward to hearing what you unearth with this deep inquiry. 

Sending love, grace + gratitude.

Amber Lilyestrom

Amber Lilyestrom is a soul-based branding & business coach, writer and motivational speaker. Amber currently coaches new and established entrepreneurs in creating strategies to transform their brands and businesses. She also works with individuals who want to leave their current careers and launch their big idea. From idea conception to the construction of the business and all of its digital assets, Amber assists new entrepreneurs in making “the big leap.”