Paul Fishman on Starting a Self-Love Diet

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Why is it so challenging to overcome the fear of loving yourself?

Today's guest, Paul Fishman, is behind the "self-love is the best medicine" movement, and he wants us to know that each and every one of us matters. Paul’s work in the world is centered around utilizing self-love as our greatest strength, and using that strength to accomplish our goals.

At the age of 25, Paul came out of the closet after years of living in fear and feeling as if he needed to hide his truth. He found himself 75 pounds overweight, $75,000 in credit card debt and suffering from severe depression. In overcoming that, he was able to discover that his love for himself was the missing piece to the equation that changes everything.

In this episode, Paul explains how we are overthinking what the term self-love actually means, and how we can let go of how we think self-love should look, trust our intuition and empower ourselves to do the things we’ve always dreamed of. 

In This Episode You’ll Learn: 

  • The fear of wading into the waters of self-love [ 6:10 ]

  • The process of overcoming a crisis [ 11:10 ]

  • How to practice self-love [ 14:25 ]

  • Where to find self-love [ 18:45 ]

  • How to notice the lessons we are supposed to be learning [ 24:00 ]

  • What it was like to start in the coaching world [ 26:10 ]

  • Fighting the fear of coming out [ 30:50 ]

  • How to reframe our mindsets towards the positives [ 35:20 ]

  • About the importance of therapy [ 38:30 ]

  • What the concept of celebration is for Paul [ 43:05 ]

Soul Shifting Quotes:

  • “I was working a job that didn’t fill me up. I was in a relationship that didn’t serve me. I was not speaking my truth about who I was.”

  • “After I stepped out of my relationship, 20 pounds had fallen off of me.”

  • “Put one foot in front of the other and continue following your heart.”

  • “The things that we truly want will come to us.”

  • “Lean into love.”

  • “Let’s put our feet on the ground and be present where we are right now.”

  • “My favorite place to be in the world is present.”

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Learn more about Paul at and be sure to follow him on Instagram: @paulfishman

Tag me in your big shifts + takeaways: @amberlilyestrom 

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